Monday, June 2, 2008

Living The (Estrogen) Life

I've been anxious about a certain birthday party that Tatum was invited to for the last 6 months.  Yes, 6 months.  It was a spa party ... for 4 year olds.  Rather than go into the politics of birthday parties and all their ante-upping I'll say this:  



Tatum had a mask, a manicure, a spa pedicure, a professional hairstyle, and professional "make-up," all while wearing chenille robes and getting catered to with light-up cups full of marshmallow-decorated smoothies.  Indulgent, yes.  Did she need a mask to smooth her flawless skin?  Of course not.  But I'm putting the breaks on judging.  We're all just parents trying to do the right thing.  

I've over thought the event for all these months, and when it came down to it, the party was for a friend, not for Tatum.  It was their choice to choose the day for their daughter.  I'm 99% sure they don't read my blog, but I want to be careful not to bash the day.  I had thoughts of this, but the truth is, it was sweet and the birthday girl had fun.


The price tag I can't imagine.  But Tatum eased my fears with this:

Manicurist (applying glitter on tiny fingernails):  "Would YOU like to have a party like this one day?"

Tatum:  No.


And just like that, we can go back to the likes of pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey.



In other news, Mom had an indulgent Mom's Night Out too.  We saw Sex and the City.  All I can say is, it felt good to be a part of the buzz.  The theatre was packed with dolled-up, Cosmo-drinking women with Hall Passes to get out, and out we did.  I'm a sucker for an easy story line and a happy ending, so my vote, go see it.  

Looking beyond the cliches of fairy tales, overpriced shoes and product plugs, and looking beyond the shoulds and should nots of birthday party etiquette, here's the thing:  We had fun.  
I tend to over think everything and lose the moment in the process.  Yesterday was all Cyndi Lauper-like because really, "Girl's Just Want to Have Fun."  And sometimes, that's just fine.

38 comments:

Lori said...

ummmm wow! I'm not sure what to think about a spa day for 4 year olds... to each their own I guess

but I'm glad you enjoyed your time away

Mary said...

I wish I was the that bithday girl for a day!
Glad you had a great girls night out. I so need one :)

Kathryn said...

I have MANY, MANY things to say on this topic. But I'll follow your lead and keep my mouth shut.

Lisa said...

Gosh I wish MY friends had these parties but it seems like only the 4-6 crowd throws these events ;)

She looked very cute!

mamachristina said...

I bumped into your blog, looks like the girls had so much fun being princesses for a day. I love your blog header.

Allison Says said...

Yeah, I don't know how I feel about that...but, to each their own! It looks like your daughter had a good time, even if it isn't what she wants for her own birthday (good thing, right?).

Lisa said...

Wow...let's hope Tatum doesn't run with that girl when they turn 16. Those are some hard Jones' to keep up with. (I wrote several other things, but took your cue & tried to be sweet instead of sour!)

Glad you got a night out though. I puffy heart girls nights. And I puffy heart those sweet pictures of Tatum. Really - so so sweet!

Amber M. said...

Hmmm, not sure what I think about that either. They grow up way too fast as it is...

I'm DYING to see "Sex"...I had a crush on Big when he was on Law & Order many moons ago, an obsession my husband just doesn't understand. Glad you liked it.

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I'll leave social commentary out also and just say she looks adorable.

Sex and the City was total fun!

Kristen said...

Good for you writing about Tatum's day!

I too would have TONS to say about the whole deal. But good for you!

And glad to hear that you also got a fabulous night!

Marlys said...

Pretend it was spa night ... in orioles cabin and maybe you will feel better.

Wendi said...

Well, she sure looks cute and
it made for a great photo opp.!

I need a friend to have a spa birthday bash and invite me!

Glad you had a great Girl's Night Out! We all need one of those every now and then to recharge!

Amy said...

Wow!!! I wish I were the birthay girl!

anglophilefootballfanatic.com said...

Holy cow. For 4 year olds? What's next year? A trip to the runways in Milan? Oy vey.

4under3 said...

Ummm. Yea! I'm all about a good time, too, and would have joined little Tatum regardless of my age. Who doesn't like marshmallow topped drinks?!

You're twins are scrumptious! I hope our girls love eachother as much as your twins appear to.

Nap Warden said...

I would over think spa day for four year olds as well...
I saw SATC this weekend, loved it!

Lindsey said...

My 4 year old would not be all for the spa bday party. Can I get a Halleluiah? I'm just a little shocked....

Glad you had a great girls night!

Chrissy said...

Interesting birthday party for a four year old, but the pictures *are* adorable.

Melanie said...

I, too will take this opportunity to keep my mouth shut.

Glad you enjoyed the movie, a night out for mom every so often is a must!

Anonymous said...

What? No limo to take you to the spa? Sheesh. Love that light up kiddie marshmallow cosmo though.

Love,
Mom/Gran

Stephanie said...

She totally rocks the Diva look! I love it :) Was this at the Sweet & Sassy Salon? They do something similar - which is so cute!

Saw SATC - Loved It! I was in Fashion Heaven...

Wendi said...

So glad you stopped by my blog for a visit today! I love hearing from/meeting new people! :)
This is a hilarious post! Looks like awesome fun! Wishing I was 4 again... :)

CC said...

your 3 year old has now officially had more spa treatment that I have. And I'm more than 10x her age.....

My Ice Cream Diary said...

So, how can I become friends with Tatum's friends? I wanna go to birthday parties like that!

Seriously, I can see what you were thinking but you were right to let her go and have fun. Just be glad that she was able to have the experience on someone else's dime. =)

I'm glad you went to the movie, thus quelling any jealousy issues that I would have had in your place. My daughter once got to take my place going to see a live production of Singing in the Rain with my husband (stupid no-show babysitter) and I was jealous for weeks.

thematically fickle said...

These are four-year olds?
I am not keeping my mouth shut on this one. I'll go right ahead and judge, since you won't:
That is totally, obscenely wrong. It's disturbing on even the most superficial levels. Personally, I think the host mother has her priorities in the wrong place.

I didn't have my first pedicure until I was in my twenties and my first spa day in my thirties. Spa days, pedicures, manicures, facials---all of it---should be saved for the more grown-up among us.

themeatically fickle said...

In fact, for those who are interested, here is a most excellent and insightful take of a very good friend of mine:

http://www.kpbs.org/blogs2/index.php/culturelust/comments/kiddie_mani_pedis/

Cheri said...
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Cheri said...

Sorry for the delayed comment. I had to ponder this one for a day or two. Do I judge like "Ginny" or do I roll with the homies like Gran? I can never be in the middle -- I do not have a soul in balance. So . . . I'll be brazenly snarky and ask: Will this kid's 5th birthday party be a three-day Mexican Rivera cruise? What the heck does that girl have to look forward to in life? Who and what will ever be able to live up the expectations that have been set so high for her? Good for you for going the pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey route, and for allowing your daughter to be included in her friends party. She has the counsel of a wise mama to keep her grounded.

Cheri said...

First comment deleted due to brazen typo committed on post-potato chip blood-sugar crash.

Cheri said...

Caca. It should say " . . . friend's party." With an apostrophe. The earlier and now-corrected typo was worse though.

Angela said...

Well I am glad you both got pampered, but glad she enjoys the simple things.

That must have been some party

Hey it's Amy Shipp said...

How cute! (Oh-so-over-the-top) yet cute! :D You girls night sounds nice too!

thematically fickle said...

Sorry about the above link. For those who are interested, here is a great take on mani and pedis for little girls:
http://blogs.kpbs.org/index.php/culturelust/comments/kiddie_mani_pedis/

Jamie, sorry about the multiple posts...feel free to delete and compress.

OHmommy said...

I have a smiliar post for today. ;)

AWESOME pictures!

Tricia said...

I'm biting my tongue, really, really hard.

katydidnot said...

well, tatum may not want one, but i do. my birthday is sept 25. do you think there's still time to book one? because you are totally invited. and so is tatum.

The Daily Stroll said...

I am blog hopping from Classy Chaos :) I wish I was the birthday girl! It looks like fun. But I agree with your thoughts on the situation. It's a tough call. You want it to be special for your kids but you don't want it to be over the top either! It's a hard balance. Like you said I guess you just have to do whatever makes it a "special memory" for your family! Great post! Enjoyed checking out your blog :)

MoziEsmé said...

The photos are so sweet! But you're right - I could handle "Pin the Tail on the Donkey" so much better. Glad your girl agrees! I hate seeing babies grow up so fast.