Saturday, September 26, 2009

Dumbo

A certain little birthday girl and birthday boy just turned one whole hand's worth of 1-2-3-4-5! Holy Moly. Five?!

Maybe it's the nostalgia of creating family five years ago. Maybe it's spending the day at "The Happiest Place on Earth." And maybe I'm just all kinds of mixed up and wacky. Maybe.



Or maybe, maybe our divorce will save our marriage.






There's a certain comfort in being a family of four. There's a certain peace in being able to communicate better now, than in the past months...years. There's a certain insanity when an (ex) husband and wife share dating stories with one another.

Although there are no certain answers, we have found a way to continue to grow. As individuals. As a couple. For this, I am grateful. Grateful and entirely crazy. Who knows what will be ahead. But damn, I could really use a map right now...
...'cause I'm feeling kinda Dumbo.


25 comments:

Karen said...

How awesome would that be?! I'm so glad that you ALL seemed to have a wonderful 5th birthday celebration for those darling kids.

Life As I Know It said...

wow, good for you. changing and growing are good things, and even better when you can help each other along the way, whatever new path that may be. do whatever works for you...sounds like you are.

Mary said...

Happy Birthday to your gorgeous little girl and boy!! 5......wow!
Best of luck to your and your family. May you find your Happy :)

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

You are definitely "choosing your own." What is better than a family day at Disneyland? Happy Birthday to two gorgeous kids.

dkuroiwa said...

aaah...what a great day!! I do so love Disneyland!! And really...to be honest...4 IS better there, because that way, no one has to ride alone...you've always got someone with you....and that is good.
Sending you good thoughts...warm wishes...and more birthday wishes for your two little ones (who were wearing 'ears' that 3 of us really wanted!!!) :-D

Courtney said...

Happy Birthday Tatum and Chase! And to you, a big "WHAT?" popped out of my mouth as I read maybe our divorce will save our marriage. Girl, I can not keep up with you... But, I wish you all the best in figurng it all out. Love to you and the kiddos.
p.s. and with this new info, I will be calling soon :)

katydidnot said...

not dumbo. silly you. just doing what comes next, without a map.

Jason, as himself said...

So happy to read this.

Lisa@verybusymomwith4 said...

5?!!! Wow....and it looks like you have a very good future ahead, with or without a map :)

Jasmine said...

I agree with your assessment... CRAZY! I'm thinking "What?!". I love Disneyland too and I'm sure it brings back great memories for you all. Hope you get through it (meaning the craziness of what this post was about) and become happier for it. I wish you all the best cause you and your kiddos deserve it!

Chris said...

It's awesome to see you guys spending time together with {for} the kids! Happy 5th Birthday to the kiddos!

Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said...

Okay, so let's go with the Dumbo theme for a minute.

Dumbo ends up paired with a mouse (Timothy), which is sort of awesome because a mouse is ordinarily considered by elephants to be frightening. So these two "natural enemies" band together. But then what happens? Dumbo gets stuck in a tree and thinks he can't fly. So Timothy gives him a "magic" feather, right? And Dumbo thinks that's why he can fly. But, as we know, Dumbo could fly all by himself the entire time.

The End

P.S. ILY. AAL.

4 Little Men and Girly Twins said...

Happy Birthday!!!! Holy Moly FIVE!!!

I can't help but grin at the idea of it all "working out"... God can do amazing things! :)

britt

Huckdoll said...

Your map is your heart; you know this :)

I'm actually gobsmacked by this post in a way I can't describe...but it's kind of like deja vu.

You know, I went with those good, warm, fuzzy feelings with contentment and foursomeness and to be perfectly honest, I have moments of both family of four perfection as well as moments of WTF did I do? I had all that freedom and potential, yet, I went with the safe and familiar rather than the scary and unknown.

My kids smile, the glow, yeah. Everyone's happy and that's good. But I still often find myself thinking about all that potential and unknown - again, if you get my drift.

I love that you're happy. I love that you POSTED woman!! You need to keep in touch more often with your fans :)

XO

Love ya.

Huckdoll said...

Also, happy, happy birthday to your lil angels. The big oh-five! Mine just turned 4 two weeks ago. Craziness all around with these growing little things :)

•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Trish.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• said...

wow Five ...Happy Birthday to your gorgeous Tatum & Chase.
I hope it all works out for you and their Dad.
I am glad you can have a good relationship for their sake.

•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Trish.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• said...

Ps I mean as in'dividuals not as a couple.

Krystyn said...

Happy birthday to your kiddos.

And, if your divorce saves your marriage, more power to you guys. You are following your hearts!

MelADramatic Mommy said...

Happy Birthday Tatum and Chase!

Miss M said...

Aw! how cute are your babies!! Well, not babies any more... Happy Birthday to them!

And if you *find* a map for that? You will be a gazillionaire!

Kelly said...

Sometimes there are no clear answers, we all just have to keep moving forward. It sounds like you both are growing and learning. That is pretty darn awesome.

Hugs as you continue to move forward...what ever direction it ends up being.

Trish said...

What Cheri said and what Huckdoll said. Think about your potential and the unknown before you go with the safe/status quo. Then make whatever decision really works for you in your heart.

Happy Birthday beautiful wonderful grandchildren. Lets go on the train this weekend!

Gran

Kristen said...

five?? Oh I can only imagine how excited they were for this trip and the turning of five!! Congrats to you mama on surviving 5 years with twins. Seriously, there needs to be an award for that! :)

And sending positive thoughts your way with the relationship questions. I know in your heart you will figure it all out! :)

CC said...

happy birthday cute kiddos!!!!!

Wendi said...

Happy Birthday to Tatum and Chase!!!

Good luck with the big decisions in your life. Have fun making them.
((hugs))